Heiress of the Ruler

Archive for August 2012

Source: The Manila Times
By: Mark J. Macapagal

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you’re single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter.

All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” You’ll wonder, “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?”. That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, nomatter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple…find him, find her. Because the very existence of a “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be “the one that got away” as well for the person who is your “the one that got away.”

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference.

If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away.” =)

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Pangarap Lang Kita
Parokya ni Edgar featuring Happee Sy

Official video:

Chito:
Mabuti pa sa lotto,
may pag-asang manalo.
Di tulad sa’yo,
Imposible.

Prinsesa ka,
Ako’y dukha.
Sa TV lang naman kasi
may mangyayari

Chorus:

At kahit mahal kita,
wala akong magagawa
Tanggap ko oh, aking sinta
Pangarap lang kita.

Happee:
Ang hirap maging babae,
kung torpe U lalake
Kahit may gusto ka,
di mo masabi..

Hindi ako yung tipo,
nagbibigay motibo.
Conservative ako kaya,
Di maaari.

Chorus:

At kahit mahal kita
wala akong magagawa.
Tanggap ko, oh aking sinta
Pangarap lang kita.

Chorus:

Chito:
At kahit mahal kita,
Happee:
(Minamahal kita)

Chito:
wala akong magagawa.
Happee:
(Walang magagawa)

Chito:
Tanggap ko oh aking sinta,

Chito & Happee:
Pangarap lang kita.

*Happee:
Suīrán wǒ hěn ài nǐ
Wǒ méi bànfǎ gàosu nǐ
Wǒ xīnzhōng yì yǒu qīnài
Dàn zhǐ xīwàng de ài

Chorus:

Chito:
At kahit mahal kita,
**Happee:
(Da ai ni)

Chito:
Wala akong magagawa
**Happee:
(Wo zhen de mei ban fa)

Chito:
Tanggap ko oh aking sinta,

Chito & Happee:
Pangarap lang kita.
Pangarap lang kita.
Pangarap lang…

Translations:

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雖然我很愛你
suiran wo hen ai ni
(Although I love you very much)

我沒辦法告訴你
wo mei ban fa, gao su ni
(I dont have ways to tell you)

我心中易有親愛
wo xin jong yi you qin ai
(There’s only you in my heart)

但只希望的愛
dan zhi xi wang de ai
(But I’ll just keep hoping for that love)

Pinyin/translations credits to Ms. Happee Sy herself 🙂

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Da ai ni (Although I love you)

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Wo zhen de mei ban fa (There is really no way)

I posted this last May 23, 2011 on my Multiply account, because I’m so pissed of so-called “music lovers”… reposting this because Multiply will soon delete my post :/

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Don’t get me wrong. I grew up in all kinds of music, classical or basagan ng tenga pa yan. Same with Tagalog or chungchangwokuala hai! lyrics pa yan. That’s how broad my musical taste is. So don’t fret if I support non-OPM songs. Of course I support and love OPM! Syempre, yan na nga lang yung naiintindihan ko eh, di nakaka-nosebleed. Walang papantay sa musika natin. Pero I believe a true music lover is open to all kinds of music, and know how to appreciate and respect it. So if I listen to other music such as KPOP, JPOP, MandoPop it doesn’t mean I lost my faith in OPM… And come on, ano ba pinagkaiba ng mga yan sa English songs na pinapakinggan din ninyo? Hindi naman OPM yun, di ba? Kung makadarag naman kayo ng tao dahil nakikinig ng kpop/jpop/mandopop eh kung sino kayong malinis dyan… tsk. Don’t be hypocrite people. Respect other’s music preferences. And don’t judge someone just because he’s listening to a non-Filipino music… it’s not like he’s betraying the country. Yes, as a Filipino, we should be patriotic and support our own, but I think it’s not bad to listen and be open to other music.

And for the record: I love OPM/English/Mandopop/Kpop/Jpop. I love them all because each has different musical styles… I hope people will learn to understand that.

by Max Ehrmann

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

(Desiderata >> Latin: “desired things”)

Found this long ago… sorry I can’t remember which site 😦

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One day, Plato asked his teacher Socrates, “What is love? How can I find it?” Socrates answered, “There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk forward without turning back, and pick only one stalk. If you find the most magnificent stalk, then you have found love.” Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with empty hands, having picked nothing. His teacher asked, “Why did you not pick any stalk?” Plato answered, “Because I could only pick once, and yet I could not turn back. I did find the most magnificent stalk, but did not know if there were any better ones ahead, so I did not pick it. As I walked further, the stalks that I saw were not as good as the earlier one, so! I did not pick any in the end.”

Socrates then said, “And that is LOVE.”

On another day, Plato asked Socrates: “What is marriage? How can I find it?” His teacher answered, “There is a thriving forest in front. Walk forward without turning back, and chop down only one tree. If you find the tallest tree, then you have found marriage”. Plato walked forward, and before long, He returned with a tree. The tree was not bad but it was not tall, either. It was only an ordinary tree, not the best but just a good tree. His teacher asked, “Why did you chop down such an ordinary tree?” Plato answered, “Based on my previous experience, I had walked through the field, but returned with empty hands. This time, I saw this tree, and I felt that it was the first good tree I had seen, so I chopped it down and brought it back. I did not want to miss the chance.”

Socrates then said, “And that is MARRIAGE.

On another day, Plato asked his teacher, “What is paramour?” Socrates answered, “Go to the forest again. You are allowed back and forth if you like, and pluck the most beautiful flower.” Plato walked forward, after 2 hours he returned with a vivid flower but a little drooped. His teacher asked, “Is this one the most beautiful follower?” Plato answered, “I had walked for 2 hours. I found this was the most beautiful flower, so I picked it. But it had been drooping on my way back.

Socrates then said, “And that is PARAMOUR.”

On another day, Plato asked his teacher, “What is life?” Socrates asked him to go to the forest again, allowed back and forth as well, and pluck the most beautiful flower. Plato walked forward. However he hadn’t come back for 3 days. His teacher went to find him. When he saw Plato’s camping in the forest, he asked:” Have you found the most beautiful flower?” Plato pointed a flower near to his camp and answered, “This is the most beautiful flower!” “Why didn’t you take it out?”  Socrates asked.  “Based on my previous experience, if I pick it, it would be drooping. Even though I didn’t pick, it would die in a couple of days for sure. So I had been living by its side while it was blooming. When it’s drooped, I was up to find another one. This is the second most beautiful flower I have found!”

Socrates then said, “You’ve got the truth of LIFE”

“Love” is the most beautiful thing to happen to a person, it’s an opportunity you don’t realize its worth when you have it but only when it’s gone like the field of stalks. “Marriage” is like the tree you chopped, it’s a compromise; you pick the first best thing you see and learn to live a happy life with it. Having an affair is alluring. It’s like lightning — bright but disappeared so quickly that you cannot catch up with and keep it. “Life” is to follow and enjoy the every beautiful moment of living. I especially like the thought of  “life”, that’s why I can enjoy my life wherever I live.

Disclaimer by sy: I translated based on the lyrics listed by the website and to the best of my knowledge as at 11 Jan 2010. The actual lyrics might differ, hence, affecting the meaning.

Jiu Xiang Lai Zhe Ni (Down With Love)
Singer: Jerry Yan

URL of Chinese Lyrics: http://www.5nd.com/geci/353726.htm
Credit of Chinese Lyrics: “????”??, http://www.5ND.com

VO (by Ella):

I believe one day…
I will definitely meet someone who knows how to “treasure” and who “truly cares for” me…
Regardless if I am pretty or not, he will always love me forever…

you dian zhuai
A little arrogant

you dian huai
A little naughty

ni de STYLE hen nan cai
Your style is really hard to decipher

bu tai fu he guan zhong de qi dai
It is not aligned with the audience’s expectation

OH ni sheng qi
Oh when you are angry

ni shua lai
When you act spoilt

zhen xing qing wu ren ti dai
Your natural real personality is irreplaceable

duo me bei ni wan zhong zi tai
I am blown away by your ever-changing looks

ni kan na bei ji de bai xue ai ai
Look, the gleaming white snow of the North Pole

dou jing yi bei ni hua kai
Has already melted because of you

ben liu de mei you zu ai
Emotions overflowing without reservations

xin qing di dang shi wei wo gan zou yin mai
You drove the gloominess away when I’m feeling down

liao yu le wo de xin tong
You healed my heartaches

yi wang guo qu shang hai
And made me forget the past hurt

OH nu hai
Oh girl

xi huan ni de hua qun bai
I love your flowy flowery skirt

tian mi gao bai bie jian wai
Please do not mind my sweet love confession for you

ni de xiao xiang chun feng zi yang pen zai
Your smile is like the warm breeze in Spring nourishing the tender shoots of love

zhi xiang nian zhe ni yi zhi ai
I just wish to stick with you and love you forever

OH nu hai
Oh girl

xi huan ni bai xue ai ai
I love your pureness and innocence

xiang he ni yi qi kan hai
I wish to enjoy the seaside scenery with you

lai zhe ni jiu xiang nan gao de xiao hai
Stick by your side like a “difficult” little child

zhi xiang dui ni sha sha yi lai
Just wish to rely on you forever, in my own silly ways

bu pian bu yi
Right on spot, right on timing

bu ji bu xu
Neither too fast nor too slow

ai shen de jian chuan qi wo ni
Cupid’s arrow has linked you and me together

xun xun mi mi
Searching around everywhere

pu shuo mi li
Yet mysteriously and surprisingly

zhen ai yuan lai jiu zai zhe li
Real love is actually here all along

xiang wei xiang yi
Depending and relying on each other

xiang zhi xiang xi
Mutual understanding and valuing each other

sha sha de jiu xiang lai zhe ni
Just wish to always stick by your side forever, in my own silly ways

bu yao huai yi
Please do not doubt

zhen ai wu di
Real love is invincible

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Zhi Wei Ai Shang Ni
Ending Theme Song by S.H.E
(Lyrics: Lan Xiao Xie)
(Song: Yang Zi Pu)
(Arrangement: Lu Shao Chun)

Credit for Post: Baidu ELLA Forum (????ella??)

Artistes: S.H.E
Song Title: (Zhi Wei Ai Shang Ni) Only to Fall for You

RAP:
ru guo shuo zhe shi jie bu gou wan mei bu gou hao
If this world is incomplete and imperfect

yi ding shi zai deng wo men
It must then be waiting for us

qin shou gei ta bian de mei hao (ai shang ni~)
To make it better ourselves (To fall for you~)

jiu xiang ai kan qi lai hui na me shao
Just like Love which seems so scarce

yi ding shi zai deng wo men (ai shang ni~)
It must then be waiting for us (To fall for you~)

yi qi yong gan xun zhao yi qi zhao dao
To be together, to search bravely, and eventually find it

yi pian pian luo ye wei kai chu ge hua yuan
Every falling leaf is waiting for a garden to blossom

shou qian shou ai guo zheng ge dong tian
Thus hand in hand, they braved through Winter

mei zhi hu die wei le fei wei le pian pian qi wu
Every butterfly is waiting to take to the sky and dance

xian zuo yi ge jian
Thus, they have to weave a cocoon first

zui mei hai an xian zong shi yao hen wan yan
The most scenic sea coast is often very winding

cai zu gou rang ren wang fan liu lian
Only then would one reminisce about its beauty

ni de shen bian yao bu shi bi tian bian hai yao yuan
If you were not further away than the sky and out of reach

yong qi ze me chu xian
How would my courage ever appear

dang ni zhong yu zou dao wo de mian qian
When you finally came right in front of me

wan zheng suo you de hua mian
The picture is thus completed

jiu suan ku la suan tian chang guo yi bian
Even if I had to taste the bitter sweetness before this

zhi sheng xi yue
Now only happiness will remain

zhi you wo liao jie zhe xing fu gan jue
Only I can understand this feeling of bliss

mei de zhi de qu fu chu yi qie
The beauty is worth giving everything I have, in pursue

neng gou yu jian ni ren shi ni xi huan ni ai shang ni
To be able to meet you, know you, like you and fall for you

gan xie wo mei yi di yan lei
I am grateful for every tear that I shed

zhi you ni ming bai wo you duo zhen gui
Only you can understand how precious I am

hao de zhi de ni wei wo gai bian
The perfection is worth you changing yourself for my sake

qing ni ji xu wen rou jiao huan wo can lan xiao rong yi tian yi tian
Please continue to be gentle, in exchange for my bright smiles, day after day

dao yong yuan na yi tian
Till eternity it will be for us

RAP:
ru guo shuo zhe shi jie bu gou wan mei bu gou hao
If this world is incomplete and imperfect

yi ding shi zai deng wo men
It must then be waiting for us

qin shou gei ta bian de mei hao
To make it better ourselves

jiu xiang ai kan qi lai hui na me shao
Just like Love which seems so scarce

yi ding shi zai deng wo men
It must then be waiting for us

yi qi yong gan xun zhao yi qi zhao dao
To be together, to search bravely, and eventually find it

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Single Blessedness Is A Calling

Life is indeed unfair because there are many unwritten rules in the society which are unjust to humanity. One major issue is in relation to one’s vocation- whether married, single or priest/nun.

What is the unwritten rule? Society will demand and judge you automatically that if you are not a priest or nun, you have to get married or else you are gay or lesbian. Others will even say that if you are “good looking” you are either gay/lesbian or taken. These are toxic ideas or fallacies which are affecting one’s mental hygiene or mental health. Society is very cruel. These are not true and people believe it to be true. That’s why they marry for wrong reasons and just end up in the statistics of broken marriages which is the trend now.

Society rejected the reality of “Single Blessedness!” Sometimes some think to be single is a misnimer. They simply forget single blessedness is a calling! It is even a choice! Is it hard to believe that there are people who are not really for marriage? Others will say that if you are happy being single why marry somebody you don’t even know and take the risk of getting into a relationship which is sometimes bound to fail due to varied reasons?

Sometimes, due to societal pressure, those who are being doubted to be gay or lesbian even if it is not true tend to rebel in the society and so they make it happen.They decided to explore what is this societal prejudice of homosexuality among singles. Sad to say, some enjoyed the thrill/adventure of it and at the end they become gay/lesbian.

People don’t get married for so many reasons which narrowminded individuals cannot understand and instead of minding their own business, they will start rumor mmongering or the business of gossip which is very much or highly profitable nowadays. Reasons of poverty, hereditary fatal disease, character/attitude problem and other logical justifications are just being responsible individuals for becoming singles for life. They just don’t want to victimize their future children to experience the bad genetics and questionable environment we live in today. This is acceptable which others cannot understand.

It is fearful to marry nowadays because there is an escalating number of married couples undergoing annulment due to reasons they only know. Love is not only the ingredient of long and lasting married relationship. If you cannot supply the financial demands of married life, love will exit and later on annulment will follow or problems of infidelity etc. Gone are the days of our grandparents and parents where fidelity was still at least a value. But in the here and now, we are living in a different world where infidelity is the name of the game. As if, if you are not an infidel, you are not in.

In every vocation, whether you are married, single or priest/nun, there are always advantages and disadvantages. Let us just respect one’s vocation and pray for their success and happiness and stop mocking each other’s vocation.

“The best is you are preventing the unfair victimization on innocent children.” Life is a risk, it is a choice, sad if you are a victim of life you did not choose. Could it be possible? You alone can answer that based from your own experience.

By the way, there are gay priests, lesbian nuns, gay/lesbian married individuals, in other words, just a cover-up of their own homosexuality. Therefore, it is really unfair to single out that singles are homosexuals because they chose not to get married or priest/nun. Sometimes, this judgemental attitude is simply a projection of their own homosexuality.

posted by Dr. Mitchell M. Feraren @ 6:48 PM
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Why unmarried people enjoy single blessedness?

Many single men and women are happy in their way of life. I asked some single people why they are not married up to now and this is their common reply, “we have not found yet our ideal partner for life.” Some ladies say that they are looking for tall, dark and handsome men; others say macho, debonaire and romantic partner; a couple of women prefer men who are highly educated, with steady job and not the wine-women type. “You know Sir, if we enter into this serious thing and later on both of us are incompatible, either one of us will be frustrated and might lead into fatal consequence like separation, divorce, etc. If we have children later on, this horrible incident will affect their life, study and their future. Beforehand we want to avoid this regrettable thing to happen,” enthused a sophisticated lady.

In the U.S., statistics show that out of 100 marriages, 70 ended up in divorce, 10 in separation and 20 marriages still hanging on the cliff’s edge. In Christian families, seldom do married couples divorce or leave husband or wife. The persistent preaching and admonition of Pentecostal Pastors and Evangelists in their regular church services, evangelistic meetings and radio-television broadcasts had led to remarriage of about 50 percent divorced couple and reunite nearly 60 percent prodigal husbands. Deeply religious men and women of God in the U.S. are aware of God’s commandments and teachings on the Bible about marriage. St. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7:8, “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: it is good for them if they remain even as I am.”

Priests and nuns and many devoted Christians adhere to the teaching of Jesus Christ. In I Corinthians 7:32, 33 and 34,: “But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the thing of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. There is a difference between wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in the spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.”

There are a number of single men and women who are happier with their singleness. They are not tied up with limitation and restriction from home as when they are married. They can go home freely at night and even up to the wee hours in the morning without somebody telling them, “where have you been?” A number of successful single women say that “it is better to be single and unattached than be married and suffer untold beatings and miseries, cruel and satanic-like husbands.” When asked who will take care of her when she gets old, the single lady replied, “I can adopt a child of my relatives send her to school until she graduates and lands a job, she will be my caregiver.”

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What is single blessedness?

Answer:

in life, there are three (3) callings or vocations:

1. married life
2. religious calling
3. single blessedness.

single blessedness is for those who want to remain single, pure and chaste their entire lives and dedicate themselves for the greater glory of god.

single blessedness is a choice, as the other two are. it does not mean that the woman is unwanted or does not have suitors. it is because it is by being single that she can best serve god and humanity.

also, single blessedness is not limited to women as there are men too who choose to embrace this vocation.

there is no higher calling among the three as each person has a different calling. what matters is just we responded to god’s call to love and said “yes,” to his will, as mary, our mother did.