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About Single Blessedness

Posted on: August 30, 2012

Single Blessedness Is A Calling

Life is indeed unfair because there are many unwritten rules in the society which are unjust to humanity. One major issue is in relation to one’s vocation- whether married, single or priest/nun.

What is the unwritten rule? Society will demand and judge you automatically that if you are not a priest or nun, you have to get married or else you are gay or lesbian. Others will even say that if you are “good looking” you are either gay/lesbian or taken. These are toxic ideas or fallacies which are affecting one’s mental hygiene or mental health. Society is very cruel. These are not true and people believe it to be true. That’s why they marry for wrong reasons and just end up in the statistics of broken marriages which is the trend now.

Society rejected the reality of “Single Blessedness!” Sometimes some think to be single is a misnimer. They simply forget single blessedness is a calling! It is even a choice! Is it hard to believe that there are people who are not really for marriage? Others will say that if you are happy being single why marry somebody you don’t even know and take the risk of getting into a relationship which is sometimes bound to fail due to varied reasons?

Sometimes, due to societal pressure, those who are being doubted to be gay or lesbian even if it is not true tend to rebel in the society and so they make it happen.They decided to explore what is this societal prejudice of homosexuality among singles. Sad to say, some enjoyed the thrill/adventure of it and at the end they become gay/lesbian.

People don’t get married for so many reasons which narrowminded individuals cannot understand and instead of minding their own business, they will start rumor mmongering or the business of gossip which is very much or highly profitable nowadays. Reasons of poverty, hereditary fatal disease, character/attitude problem and other logical justifications are just being responsible individuals for becoming singles for life. They just don’t want to victimize their future children to experience the bad genetics and questionable environment we live in today. This is acceptable which others cannot understand.

It is fearful to marry nowadays because there is an escalating number of married couples undergoing annulment due to reasons they only know. Love is not only the ingredient of long and lasting married relationship. If you cannot supply the financial demands of married life, love will exit and later on annulment will follow or problems of infidelity etc. Gone are the days of our grandparents and parents where fidelity was still at least a value. But in the here and now, we are living in a different world where infidelity is the name of the game. As if, if you are not an infidel, you are not in.

In every vocation, whether you are married, single or priest/nun, there are always advantages and disadvantages. Let us just respect one’s vocation and pray for their success and happiness and stop mocking each other’s vocation.

“The best is you are preventing the unfair victimization on innocent children.” Life is a risk, it is a choice, sad if you are a victim of life you did not choose. Could it be possible? You alone can answer that based from your own experience.

By the way, there are gay priests, lesbian nuns, gay/lesbian married individuals, in other words, just a cover-up of their own homosexuality. Therefore, it is really unfair to single out that singles are homosexuals because they chose not to get married or priest/nun. Sometimes, this judgemental attitude is simply a projection of their own homosexuality.

posted by Dr. Mitchell M. Feraren @ 6:48 PM


Why unmarried people enjoy single blessedness?

Many single men and women are happy in their way of life. I asked some single people why they are not married up to now and this is their common reply, “we have not found yet our ideal partner for life.” Some ladies say that they are looking for tall, dark and handsome men; others say macho, debonaire and romantic partner; a couple of women prefer men who are highly educated, with steady job and not the wine-women type. “You know Sir, if we enter into this serious thing and later on both of us are incompatible, either one of us will be frustrated and might lead into fatal consequence like separation, divorce, etc. If we have children later on, this horrible incident will affect their life, study and their future. Beforehand we want to avoid this regrettable thing to happen,” enthused a sophisticated lady.

In the U.S., statistics show that out of 100 marriages, 70 ended up in divorce, 10 in separation and 20 marriages still hanging on the cliff’s edge. In Christian families, seldom do married couples divorce or leave husband or wife. The persistent preaching and admonition of Pentecostal Pastors and Evangelists in their regular church services, evangelistic meetings and radio-television broadcasts had led to remarriage of about 50 percent divorced couple and reunite nearly 60 percent prodigal husbands. Deeply religious men and women of God in the U.S. are aware of God’s commandments and teachings on the Bible about marriage. St. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7:8, “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: it is good for them if they remain even as I am.”

Priests and nuns and many devoted Christians adhere to the teaching of Jesus Christ. In I Corinthians 7:32, 33 and 34,: “But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the thing of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. There is a difference between wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in the spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.”

There are a number of single men and women who are happier with their singleness. They are not tied up with limitation and restriction from home as when they are married. They can go home freely at night and even up to the wee hours in the morning without somebody telling them, “where have you been?” A number of successful single women say that “it is better to be single and unattached than be married and suffer untold beatings and miseries, cruel and satanic-like husbands.” When asked who will take care of her when she gets old, the single lady replied, “I can adopt a child of my relatives send her to school until she graduates and lands a job, she will be my caregiver.”


What is single blessedness?


in life, there are three (3) callings or vocations:

1. married life
2. religious calling
3. single blessedness.

single blessedness is for those who want to remain single, pure and chaste their entire lives and dedicate themselves for the greater glory of god.

single blessedness is a choice, as the other two are. it does not mean that the woman is unwanted or does not have suitors. it is because it is by being single that she can best serve god and humanity.

also, single blessedness is not limited to women as there are men too who choose to embrace this vocation.

there is no higher calling among the three as each person has a different calling. what matters is just we responded to god’s call to love and said “yes,” to his will, as mary, our mother did.


2 Responses to "About Single Blessedness"

Outstanding article! Amazing. I was so blessed reading. Thank you. Are you a filipina too?

In our discussion on Chritian,Vocation and Ethics(CVE) was all about the 3 vocations, namely; Married Life, Single-Blessedness,and Religious Life.I would like to ask for guidance how to discern or choose a vocation.I would be willing to accept advice from you.I am still confuse.Thank You.

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