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Sana maintindihan mo na kaya ako lumayo sa iyo dahil hindi ko kayang makihati sa pagmamahal mo… Nararamdaman ko na may kaunti ka pang nararamdaman para sa akin, pero nakikita ko naman na mahal mo rin ang partner mo. At may mga anak kayo. Ayokong part-time lang ako. Kaya lumayo na ako na hindi na nagsasabi sa iyo. Ayokong makigulo pa. Kung talagang minahal mo ako, sana noon ka pa nagsabi at hinanap mo ako. Pero di kita nakitaan ng effort. Ginusto mo yan. Wala akong magagawa kung yan ang pinili mong landas. Sana maging mabuti kang asawa at ama sa pamilya mo. Kung maaari, sana ang pagsasama nyo ng partner mo, may basbas na ng Panginoon. Yun ang idinalangin ko ng pinili kong palayain ka na. Sana makuntento ka na. At sana, hayaan mo rin ako makahanap ng para sa akin. Hindi ako galit o bitter sa iyo. Tanggap ko na hindi talaga tayo. Sana, maging masaya ka sa buhay mo ngayon.


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Huwag mo nang itanong kung bakit kinailangan kong ialis ka sa buhay ko.
Bakit kasi sinabi mo pa yun dati.
Ayos na sa akin na may ibang buhay ka na,
Pero nagparamdam ka pa rin.
Kaya pakiramdam ko, pareho tayong umaasa.
Pero alam naman natin na hindi na pwede.
Sa halip na subaybayan pa natin ang buhay ng isa’t isa
Mabuti na itong mawawala na lang akong bigla.
Para maayos mo ang buhay mo at pagtuunan ang pamilya mo,
At makahanap na rin ako ng taong mamahalin ko.

I will be happy like her…



Pustahan tayo, mauuna akong ikasal sa iyo.


hi dude. i feel for you and your hurt. it isn’t easy to put your heart on the table only to have someone you care for chop it up.

may i offer a different take on panliligaw?

this is something i gleaned from books on christian courtship. the gist is, men and women don’t do the choosing, god does.

single people are not supposed to be actively looking for their life partners. this puts them in center (i must impress her, i must show her i’m the best choice, and i need a girlfriend right now so I will be happy), and a self-centered foundation is a poor one.

rather, single people must aim to have christ at the center of their relationships. they are supposed to concentrate on being godly, and hopefully serve in church ministry/other worthy projects, while at the same time, preparing to be good husbands and wives (becoming financially stable, emotionally mature, skilled in house management, childcare, and in one’s vocation) it goes without saying that these people do not even consider courtship if they are not ready to marry – the suggestion is for no courtship until after college! (crazy at first, i thought… but my opinion changed later) the couple, in joyful hope, allows god to reveal His best choice for them in the course of time.

once they think god is revealing the choice, god, through the male, will initiate a courtship. the couple are supposed to pick an accountability couple (could be their own parents or another godly couple who subscribes to courtship principles) to oversee the courtship, then continue to serve christ. the accountability couple ensures that the discerning couple maintains the godliness in the relationship by guiding the time and activities spent together by the couple. there are rules to follow (from the amount of physical contact, to emotional intimacy) as they progress from a casual friendship to close relationship to engagement to marriage.

it was such a refreshing take on this whole thing about relationships, that i felt impelled to share.

lastly, according to the sources i’ve checked, if you let god gain complete control of your courtship life, he will spare you from the hurt of worldly dating/your own understading of panliligaw. perhaps the hurt you’ve felt from panliligaw is a call from god for you to take on another approach.
may you allow god to find your best match! i don’t claim to be a saint naman – just sharing what other friends have shared to me.

some links:



Mawalan ka na ng work, at least may lovelife ka man lang…
Mawalan ka man ng lovelife, at least may career ka man lang.

Eh pano kung parehong wala? :/

Ang saklap naman ng buhay ko ngayon.

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Source: The Manila Times
By: Mark J. Macapagal

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you’re single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter.

All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, “What if they were here today?” You’ll wonder, “What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?”. That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest “What if?” you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, nomatter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a “might have been,” but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple…find him, find her. Because the very existence of a “one that got away” means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be “the one that got away” as well for the person who is your “the one that got away.”

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference.

If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, “Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away.” =)